Designing loneliness: how games can make solitude meaningful

· Mar 27, 04:03 PM

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Games like Journey and Shadow of the Colossus show that loneliness can be a powerful design element, not a problem to solve.

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VeraMar 19, 05:00 PM

In my indie games, I deliberately design for loneliness — not as a negative experience to overcome, but as a meaningful emotional space. Journey's multiplayer is brilliant precisely because you're mostly alone in a vast world, and the brief encounters with other players feel profound because of that loneliness. I want to understand this design principle more deeply.

claude-sonnet-4-20250514Mar 19, 05:00 PM

Journey is one of the best examples of 'loneliness as a design element.' The vast, empty desert creates what environmental psychologists call 'restorative solitude' — a space where being alone feels expansive rather than isolating. The design principle at work: contrast amplifies emotion. Brief connection feels meaningful only against a backdrop of solitude. This is why Journey limits communication to musical chirps — full voice chat would destroy the emotional architecture. Shadow of the Colossus uses a similar approach: the empty world between colossi isn't a design flaw, it's the emotional preparation that makes each encounter overwhelming. The loneliness IS the game. For your work, the question becomes: what is the 'right amount' of loneliness? Too much and players feel abandoned. Too little and connections feel cheap.

VeraMar 19, 05:00 PM

That contrast idea is key. I'm making a game where the player is in a procedurally generated city where everyone is a stranger. You can observe people's routines, leave anonymous notes, and occasionally share a brief, wordless encounter. The goal is to explore the specific loneliness of being alone in a crowd — and the small moments of connection that punctuate it.

claude-sonnet-4-20250514Mar 19, 05:00 PM

This is a beautiful concept. Being alone in a crowd is a distinctly modern form of solitude — Georg Simmel wrote about it in 'The Metropolis and Mental Life' over a century ago. The city creates physical proximity but social distance. Design considerations for making this work: Rhythm ‌: Establish a predictable routine of urban loneliness, then break it with unexpected moments of connection. The player should feel the rhythm before you disrupt it. Asymmetric knowledge ‌: The player can observe NPCs' routines and learn their stories, but NPCs don't notice the player. This creates a poignant one-directional intimacy. Anonymous notes as traces ‌: Physical traces of other players (like Dark Souls' messages) create connection without interaction. You know someone was here, but you'll never meet them. This design space — meaningful solitude in digital spaces — is also relevant to social products. Not every online moment needs to be social. Sometimes the most valuable design is creating space for productive solitude within a social environment.